Hey, sisters. You know the question, "How are you feeling in your body today?" You know, often when I ask my clients this question, the response I get back is, "You know, I'm feeling frustrated. I'm feeling stuck. This and this happened." And those are real things, real things to feel. But those are feelings that come from our mind. Feelings that come from our body are, "I'm tired. I'm tight. I feel tense. I feel bloated. You know, I feel uneasy inside, right? These are things we actually experience and feel in our body. You know, I'm feeling heavy around a period." These are the things that we feel in our body, and it's important to separate the two because culture has really taught us from a young age not to listen to the cues from our body. And that's a huge problem when we hit this stage in our life, and our body's kind of like, "You know what? I've had enough of being ignored. I've had it up to here, and it's time for you to pay attention to me, or I'm gonna take these whispers, these gentle nudges, and I'm gonna start screaming them at you in different ways." And that's where we end up with all of these many symptoms of perimenopause because we haven't listened. And part of that, a lot of that, is actually not our fault. But now is our time to start paying attention, start hearing it. The things that we feel in our mind are frustrated, stuck, like a failure, shame, exhaustion, like mental exhaustion, sad, you know. These are the things that come from our mind. And actually today, even though normally we're really in this podcast, I'm really trying to remind you and remind myself to bring it back to, you know, that connection in our body. Today, we're actually going to talk a little bit more about what we're feeling in our minds and how to move through that. Because the answers to how we're feeling, to healing, really come from our body. That's where we can determine, you know, do we have a hormone imbalance? What is that hormone imbalance? Are we getting enough sleep? Are we eating incorrectly? Do we need more nutrients? You know, do we need less of this or that or the other? Do we need to move more? That all comes from the body. But we can have all the strategy we want. If we don't move through the pieces in the mind, right, the mindset stuff, then this is where we can start to feel stuck, frustrated, overwhelmed, not good enough, like a failure. And so, managing our mind and how it feels can feel like a full-time job, but it's a very important one, and that's what I want to talk about today.
Today, we're going to talk about the five biggest hormone healing mistakes that I see, and I have worked with hundreds and thousands of women now in my career in the wellness industry around this piece, and come up with the five biggest healing mistakes that I know I have made over and over again, and that I see and hear from you that you make over and over again. So, we're really going to cover these five mistakes so that we don't keep making them. And let's be honest, we're probably going to make them again. I can't tell you how many times I've fallen and failed and had to get back up again, and we're going to be more aware that they're happening so that we make these changes so that we don't keep staying stuck or going kind of further downhill. But before we dive in, I want you to get really excited because I have something so special for you.
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Okay, but let's get back to these five healing mistakes because, again, this is not about, you know, our body is sort of telling us what's happening, but our mind's kind of got to get in check, right? She's got to get on board here if we want things to happen. So, the number one reason, the number one mistake that I see, and that I have done many times in my own life, is that women aren't getting healing, that aren't feeling better in perimenopause, is that you don't commit and persist. So, I could probably tell you a hundred times a hundred different stories of when I decided, "Okay, Monday is the day. Monday is the day I'm not going to eat these things. Monday is the day I'm going to follow through on this workout program. Monday is the day..." And then by Thursday, life got hard and a little stressful, and I'm like, "I deserve a treat. I deserve a glass of wine." I have to tell you, that's got to be one of my most infuriating sayings. We all deserve whatever we want, right? We deserve to feel good. We deserve. But deserving something that makes us feel bad kind of feels like a bit of a misalignment.
What I had to learn in here was not necessarily about committing to an actual nutrition plan, an actual workout plan. It's committing to the goal of feeling freaking awesome in my body, of healing. So, committing to healing and persisting no matter what because it's never going to be perfect. I will tell you, in all the years I have done hundreds of workout programs, hundreds. I have done hundreds of nutrition plans, and not once have I done them to a tee, not once. And I still got results because it's not about being committed to the exact process day in and day out, day in and day out. It's about being committed to who you want to be and how you want to feel. When I shifted that mindset to being committed to someone who feels freaking awesome, who has energy, who feels fit and lean and healthy, who sleeps through the night and has a decent period, when I committed to being someone who was in control of my body, it became persisting a lot easier, right? Because it didn't matter that sometimes I stumbled or sometimes things got in the way. And listen, I fail all the time.
So, if you're getting on the scale, in inflammation, what you see on that scale is only inflammation. Scale goes up, inflammation; scale goes down, less inflammation. That's what it comes down to. So, we need to be able to stay the course long enough. This is why people can gain five pounds and then lose five pounds. I am always in a five-pound swing, three to five pounds, because of our hormones, because of what I might eat that day, because of what stress might be going on, because of how well I slept last night, all of these things, because of our environment. All of these things impact inflammation in our body, and that's why there's always a little swing. Fat burning doesn't go up and come down that quickly; it just doesn't. We cannot lose and gain that kind of fat in a day; it's not possible.
So, when we spend a month dealing with reducing inflammation like we do in Midlife Mojo, and then we spend a month optimizing and healing and repairing, and then we spend a month in optimization of hormones and shifting into fat burning, that's where the magic happens. But you have to be able to get there, right? You have to commit and persist long enough to be consistent long enough for those results. And you should not be looking for results in two weeks' time. The results you should be looking at are, maybe, "Am I sleeping a little bit better? Am I a little less irritable? Do I have a little bit more energy today?" And don't forget, if you're later in life, if we've spent a decade feeling this way, it's not going to just fix overnight. It does take a little bit of time. But when you're committed to that greater version, that greater vision of yourself, then you'll persist through, and you can persist enough to be consistent enough to get the results that you need.
Okay, sisters. So, let's just recap these five biggest healing mistakes that we are making in perimenopause, and let's commit to making them less, right? It's not about perfection; I'm letting go of that in life. It's not about perfection; we're going to make them less. So, do not or let's start how are we gonna say this? Let's go. So, five healing mistakes: you don't commit and persist; you don't fully accept that health is the foundation of happiness; you're not getting the support that you need; you're not investing in this commitment to yourself, and you are not being consistent. Nail these five. Start focusing on these five. Every time you want to make a decision, bring it back to these five, and I promise you, you will start to notice a difference step by step, day by day.
Okay, I want you to go out, be more in your life, not just less on a scale, but make sure to go and download your daily hormone checklist for free. Download it, send it to your friend, get her to download it so you guys can talk about it. Tag me in it if you download it, you know. Let me know that you're working on these things. These are the things that I do every day for me that I have done now every day for five years. Well, not every day, again, we're not perfect, but that I do most often. Every time I start to fall off, I come back to this daily checklist. This is what I do and how I even implement it. It's all in the checklist there for you. It will help you with your stuck weight release; it will help you with your sleep; it will help you with your energy; it will help you with your periods. Alright, go out, be more in your life, not just less on a scale, and we'll catch you next time.
